dende: hollowed out and dried gourd used as a container.
(Large gourds are also used to mount the mbira musical instrument. The gourd resonates and enriches the sound.)
To those who have had children, laugh behind a large gourd.
One’s face behind a large gourd would be concealed, and the resulting sound muffled or disguised, making it difficult to clearly recognise them or the sound.
Every parent should realise that they are not immune to the possibility of being disappointed by their children, even with the best parenting.